Esteem Alignment

When I am asked the question "what do you do?" I would love to respond appropriately by saying "I am an Esteem Alignment Coach" because in reality AND inevitably that is what it comes down to almost EVERY time I work with someone. The reason I don't respond this way is because it is the "symptom(s)" -feeling stuck, overwhelmed, in a state of despair, restless, goal-seeking, OR the demise of a relationship, strife among current relationships, grief, job loss, ETC. that will cause clients to seek out my services. I do help reset various areas of my clients lives and relationships, however, almost always the root of the problem will be found in an Esteem that is out of alignment.

The "bumps" we experience in our lives and/or relationships have a way of throwing our sense of self "out of alignment." This can have an immense effect on our self-value and in turn on almost every aspect of our lives and our relationships. This can and DOES happen to everyone at various times throughout our lives. 

The relationship we have with ourselves is ALWAYS the most important one, yet, it is MOST often the one that gets ignored. We were given so many great gifts when we were Created (every ONE of us) and those gifts often get buried among the rubble (collateral damage) as we make our way through all that life can throw our way.  

There are often times in our lives and/or in our relationships when things feel out of balance. There are many reasons why this happens, sometimes it's circumstantial, and then there are times when we feel out of balance or even a little broken, and we do not even know why. 

Most often there is a reason or a goal that drives someone to seek out the help of a coach. Many times though it is just a knowing that something is just not right. You feel lost, overwhelmed, stuck, confused, restless, or even distraught. there are SO many emotions that come into play when 'esteem' is out of alignment.

When there is a big deficit within there is usually something that you know has caused this disruption within; loss of a loved one, the demise of a relationship, strife within one or more of your relationships, a job loss, a major life transition, lack of social interaction, unable to achieve self-proposed goals, financial distress, this could be a VERY long list. Many times it is a combination of "reasons."

I have found that in almost every instance someone has been compelled to seek my services, it has come back around to self-esteem being out of alignment. It can be difficult to keep our sense of self intact as we navigate through all that life has for us. Our esteem plays a BIG role in every aspect of our lives, so much more than we even realize. 

Esteem- to respect and admire. Can you say that you respect and admire yourself? And if you can, is that respect and admiration aligned with your values? Most of us would probably say yes to that, but when life and our relationships have strife in them, we tend to lose our sense of self and get wrapped up in the "what's and who's" that are happening around us, and yes we can very easily lose track of ourselves in that mix. 

When this happens it can be impossibly hard to get outside of "your own head" so that you are able to "re-align" (RESET) your sense of self on your own. This is where working with someone that has YOUR best interests at heart can be so very valuable. 

When you are able to reset the relationship you have with your SELF it becomes MUCH easier to succeed in almost every area of your life and relationships.